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Good ol’ advice from big sis

Sit down, lil sis. I understand there’s a certain classmate at school named Nova and how she’s stubborn, mean, and always gets her way. But don’t you worry, I’m here to help! When dealing with kids like her, you just need to step up your persuasion levels so you don’t always have to give in to her demands. Here are a few ways to do so.

Negotiate: The trick is to use negotiation as a tool of diversion. Don’t ever compromise your main point. Make up a larger request you don’t care about to draw her attention, then compromise on that by striking a deal using your real (smaller) request. Point is, when both the requests are compared, your real one will seem more favourable so she’ll be more receptive to grant it instead. Remember, it’s a strategic negotiation so you’re supposed to let her think it’s fair.
Ex) Next time during “partner library time” if she makes you read books about Brittany Spears’s little pregnant sister.. what’s it called? Right, Zoey 101, you can say this:
You: Let’s read this mystery book.
Her: But we read one before, let’s read a different book. I don’t like mystery.
You: I don’t care. We should read this mystery book, and then read that entire series of mystery books over there.
Her: But that’s too much! It’ll take forever to read.
You: Yeah, I guess you’re right. Gosh, we’d get sick of them all wouldn’t we?
Her: Yeah, that’s right.
You: Ok, just one book it is, then.

Be taller: Another effective method is to use intimidation and look bigger.
Ex) if she steals your markers that I bought you again, this is what you do:
Her: (sitting) Give me your markers.
You: (standing up) These are mine that my awesome sister bought me. Use your own.
Her: (also standing up) But I need them!
You: (standing on tippy toes) Last time you took the pack then lied about it. That’s stealing.
Her: (still standing) Nuh-uh!
You: (standing on chair) It had my name on the inside of the lid! (Optional: punch your palm while reasserting your proposition).
Her: Uh. Fiiine (sits down).

Use big words: You mentioned she’s stubborn and often uses simple words like nuh-uh, did too, yeah right, etcetc. Do the opposite and use big words. They make you sound smarter and harder to argue with.
Ex) Since you’re not into Barbie, compare these two arguments and see which is more persuasive:
“Barbie is bad. Lego is better.”
“You are the manifestation of surplus delusion if you do not vilify the depredation that toys like Barbie impose on young, innocent kids, while showcasing the supremacy of Lego.”

Use a weapon: If all else fails here’s a pocket watch. When she wants something unreasonable just whip it out and swing it while saying, “You are getting sleepy.. Veerrryy sleeepy~..” You know the rest.

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  1. itsame
    April 13, 2010 at 5:38 pm

    “Barbie is bad. Lego is better.” is more persuasive IMO.

  2. CC
    April 13, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    So IMO, I think you should just tell the person you can make tanks with Lego. More appealing – oh, and don’t forget bribes! “Here’s a cookie, let’s do math!”

    Ah… fun times…

  3. April 13, 2010 at 10:34 pm

    itsame – Thing about the second sentence is you can assert your claim and subliminally insult the other person at the same time, heh.

    CC – I don’t know about you, but I’d rather use bribery in such a way that’d lead to other, better benefits. Who spends their leisure time doing math? Lol:P.

  4. CC
    April 13, 2010 at 10:47 pm

    This is true… but see, tanks are more attractive than barbies by consensus. You can always make them feel small by building a better tank!
    Appeal is always a good way to lure people in! Draw them away from their ideas with glitter and sparkles! (You can put these on the lego too… though not sure your tanks will look intimidating after the makeover)

  5. CC
    April 13, 2010 at 10:53 pm

    And why you hating on math!? 1+1=2! Partay up in hurr

  6. April 13, 2010 at 11:06 pm

    CC – Yeah, lego is great. Can build whatever your skills and imagination allows you to. I loved it as a kid. You’re defending an argument that hasn’t been challenged.

    Haha haven’t you heard? 1+1 = window! 🙂

  7. CC
    April 13, 2010 at 11:22 pm

    Oh oh, I defended it before you specifically focused the first response at itsame xD. But… as you can see, there’s versatility with my option!

    And window?! My grade 6 teacher lied to me… I’ll show him for making me look like a fool!

  8. April 14, 2010 at 9:35 am

    Versatility with mine as well. Can build whatever (sentences) your skills and imagination allows you to. English is great. But yeah your idea can have its own header since it deals with the uses of lego, whereas mine is about how you say it.

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